I know that it prolly don't matter to y'all...

[sexysmile]

About a month ago I got back one of the best friends/loves I've ever had. He and I became closer over the last few weeks and had started to open up to each other. Well I told him the whole story about what happened between me and one of my friends' brothers and he just couldn't deal with it. He knew I had a tarnished past and he said it didn't matter but all of a sudden tonight it does...now he's saying we're moving too fast and we need to slow down and that this was too much for him.

I dealt with him telling me that he knew his ex-wife was cheating with god knows who and he forgave her but for this, something that happened when we weren't even speaking is hurting me to my heart. I love him dearly and now it's like all of a sudden he's going back on his word with me.

I'm sorry to bug y'all but I'm hurt by all this and I don't know how to look at it...I've done so much crying I'm surprised I can even see the screen....

[Nina]

AWwwwwwwwww smily .MY eayes are gettin' waterly right now.OMG,what is he thinkin'.I mean,why out of no where is he jus comin' at cha like that.Man,smily i feel like cryin' right now.Don't worry everything will be okay.Be strong sista,i know it's hard but try your best to get though this.I know how that's feels 4 your heart to feel like that.Sumtimes,it feels like you can't speak.I feel ya sista.If you need any one Big Nina here to help you out .I'll be here girl and i hope everyone else in here is too.But if not you got me.It's hard not to be sad,but GOD will help you;if not i will.you can hit me up on my e-mail if you don't wanna talk about it on the dru net.K ([e-mail]).BE STRONG GIRL

[aDRUfan4LiFe]

Hey Girl,
Know that if he was really the one for you, then he would've been able to stick it out with you. So, I know it's hard when a so called "friend" turns their back on you. Know that your worth more than that and there are people (male/female) out there that will be there for you through the good and the bad. Don't be ashamed to cry. Let it all out. For you being bold enough to even let us know what was going on, you took a good step! Like Nina said, if you need anyone to talk to, you can hit me up on AIM at Tanee78 or IM here!

[CarolinaCutie]

I TOTALLY agree with nina and adrufan. Juss remember that in time, things will get better. Until then, here's a big hug from me to you.

[sweetgapeach]

Well Ma,

All I can say is that time heals all wounds, but on another note undastand that he is first a man and that as a man he isn't able to handle things like this< I mean its always expected for us to handle these situations with grace and charm, but never the guys right? I mean they can get mad and not undastand and that's acceptable. I say that if you really love this guy or care for him, give him some time to come around, I mena i'm sure that the feelings he has are still there, but as a man he has to patch his wounded ego first, sometimes it takes time for them to realize the error of theri ways. But most importantly I want to know what right does he have to get mad about soemthing that happened before he came along, if he can't deal with that then he shouldn't be able to deal with anything that you haev done in your past.

The past is in the past people learn form their mistakes and they move on, I hate it when people don't allow a person to move on from past mistakes.

I hope that you and he work things out. anytime you need a shoulder to cry on, you know how ot get at me.

[DruDiamond]

Stay strong girl, keep ya head up and things will get better. When you love somebody so much something will always get in the way of that. I dunno if it's a test or what but do remember this....-Love is like Heaven but it can hurt like Hell- Imma witness to that. My email is always available if you wanna talk. [e-mail] or [e-mail]. Hang in there girly

[VaPy]

God will never let you go through something you can't handle. If it doesn't work out then it'll make you stronger and you two were simply not meant to be, if it does then you will have survived a lot of s*** together and it will make both of you stronger. Like my boyfriend said when we were going through a rough patch, how can we make a beautiful garden grow without some rain?

[sexysmile]

Thanks for everything you guys said. He and I worked things out after spending the day with some of our friends. He told me he just had to process the information. He doesn't see me any less than what he saw me before it was just the situation of what he found out that was a little too much for him to take in all at once.

We're back to our usual selves and hopefully after every rain we'll see more flowers in that garden. He is truly my best friend and my heart.

Again thanks for everything you guys said...it helped a lot. Now I can get some sleep that I didn't get last night..after he calls me to tell me he made it home and to say good night.

Like Jill Scott said...he incites me to chorus.